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Quick answer: It Starts with Us is best for ages 17 and up, because it is an adult romance that follows a story about domestic violence.
Quick facts
– Book: It Starts with Us by Colleen Hoover (2022)
– Format: Adult romance
– Suggested starting age: 17+ (most children), earlier with a parent reading along
– Best for: families checking whether the book fits their child's age and maturity
Parents search for the right age for It Starts with Us because age labels on a cover rarely tell the whole story. A child's age is only one clue. Reading level, maturity, sensitivity to certain topics and whether a parent will read along all matter. This guide gives a clear age range, a content breakdown and a few ways to decide for your own child. Use the table and checklist below as a starting point, then adjust for what you know about your child's temperament, reading experience and sensitivity.
Table of Contents
Age-by-Age Guide to It Starts with Us
| Age | What to expect |
|---|---|
| Under 14 | Usually too early. Wait, or choose a younger book. |
| 14–16 | Possible only if a parent reads along and talks through the harder parts. |
| 17–19 | The best fit for most readers. Many can read it alone, and a quick chat afterward helps. |
| 20+ | Comfortable for independent reading. Older readers may enjoy it for the story, though it may feel simple or familiar. |
What Is It Starts with Us About?
The sequel to It Ends with Us follows Lily as she navigates life after leaving an abusive marriage and reconnects with her first love, Atlas.
Start with It Starts with Us by Colleen Hoover if your child is in the suggested range.
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Content Guide for Parents
| Topic | What to know |
|---|---|
| Violence | Domestic abuse is referenced |
| Language | Moderate |
| Romance and sex | Adult romance with sexual content |
| Scary content | Tense moments |
| Drugs and alcohol | Some drinking |
| Positive messages | Healing and second chances |
Is It Starts with Us Okay for a Younger Child?
A 14- or 15-year-old is too young for it. It is adult in content.
What Parents Should Know Before Their Child Reads It Starts with Us
The story deals with abuse and recovery. If domestic violence is a concern in your home, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233.
Why Age Recommendations Differ
Publishers, schools, libraries and review sites often give different age ranges for the same book. Publishers aim at the buying market, schools think about reading level and classroom discussion, and parents care most about content and maturity. If you are unsure about It Starts with Us, read a few pages, check a trusted review and trust what you know about your own child.
Reading Level, Length and Format
Before you buy, check the page count and the edition. Longer books with small print can feel harder than the age label suggests, and illustrated or abridged editions can bring a book within reach of a younger reader. Audiobooks and library copies are a low-cost way to try It Starts with Us first. If your child reads below the suggested level, reading aloud together is a good way to share the story without frustration.
Tips for Different Kinds of Readers
- Advanced young readers: A strong reader may be able to decode the words of It Starts with Us well before they are ready for its themes, so judge by maturity, not only by reading level.
- Reluctant readers: Offer the audiobook, take turns reading chapters, or watch for a good moment to stop and talk.
- Sensitive readers: Skim the content guide above and preview any chapters that may upset them.
- Older readers: Teens who read below the age range for fun can still enjoy the book, and a familiar story can be a comfortable break.
Is Your Child Ready? A Quick Checklist
- Can they read at a level close to the book's, or will they listen as you read aloud?
- Do they cope well with the themes listed in the content guide above?
- Do they like talking about stories, and will they come to you with questions?
- Have they read other books at a similar level and enjoyed them?
- Do they want to read this book, rather than feel pushed to?
- Are you able to check in after the first few chapters?
If you answered yes to most of these, your child is probably ready. If you answered no to several, it is fine to wait a year or choose a gentler book first.
A Simple Read-Together Plan
- Preview. Read the first chapter or a sample yourself so you know the tone.
- Read the first chapters together. Notice how your child reacts, and pause when something feels heavy.
- Check in. Ask what they think is happening and how they feel about the characters.
- Decide on independence. If it goes well, let them continue alone, and keep the conversation open.
If Your Child Wants to Read It Early
Curious children often ask for books before the suggested age. Rather than say no outright, offer a compromise: read the first chapters together, listen to the audiobook as a family or set a check-in after each section. That keeps It Starts with Us from becoming forbidden fruit while still letting you guide the experience.
Questions to Talk About After Reading It Starts with Us
- Which character did you understand best, and why?
- Was there a moment that surprised or worried you?
- What would you have done in the main character's place?
- What did the book teach you, if anything?
- Would you recommend it to a friend, and who would enjoy it most?
A Note on Sensitive Topics
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, in the U.S. call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Similar Books to Try
- It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover: the first book
- Verity by Colleen Hoover: a thriller
- Beautiful Disaster by Jamie McGuire: a new-adult romance
Related: It Starts with Us by Colleen Hoover: Summary and Key Takeaways · It Starts with Us Ending Explained
Frequently Asked Questions
What age is It Starts with Us appropriate for?
It Starts with Us is best for ages 17 and up, because it is an adult romance that follows a story about domestic violence.
Is It Starts with Us okay for a younger child?
A 14- or 15-year-old is too young for it. It is adult in content.
Do I need to read It Ends with Us first?
Yes.
Is It Starts with Us explicit?
It has some sexual content.
Should I read It Starts with Us before my child does?
It is a good idea to read the opening chapters or a summary first. That way you know the tone and can answer questions as they come up.
Can my child listen to It Starts with Us instead of reading it?
Yes. An audiobook is a good option for readers who are a little below the suggested age, because you can listen together and pause to talk.